How to Use a Dildo for the First Time
So you bought a dildo.
Congratulations on your recent administrative decision.
Now it’s sitting there looking considerably more confident about the situation than you are.
The good news is that using a dildo for the first time doesn’t require extraordinary flexibility or a 14-part instructional course. Choose something suitable, use plenty of lubricant, start slowly and pay attention to what feels good.
Revolutionary stuff.
Choosing a Dildo for Beginners
If you’re buying your first dildo, bigger is not automatically better.
We understand the temptation.
You see something enormous online, briefly develop the confidence of a Viking and add it to your cart.
Then the parcel arrives.
Choices have been made.
For beginners, a smaller or medium-sized dildo with a tapered or relatively manageable shape can be easier to explore.
If you'd prefer to start sensibly, have a look through our smaller dildo options. They're there for beginners, minimalists and people with perfectly reasonable boundaries.
Texture is another consideration.
Ridges, bumps and unusual shapes can provide more noticeable stimulation, but you don't necessarily need to begin with something that looks like it was recovered from an archaeological dig on another planet.
You can work up to that.
Check the Actual Measurements
This is important.
Product photography has absolutely no respect for scale.
Before choosing a dildo online, check the overall length, insertable length and girth rather than deciding entirely based on how threatening it looks in a photo.
Something like Banana With Benefits, for example, is listed as a Beginner+ option and has its actual measurements shown clearly on the product page.
For people with significantly more confidence, there is also our A Bit Ambitious collection.
The name should probably be enough warning.
Use More Lube Than You Think
Lubricant makes a considerable difference.
Apply some to yourself and some to the toy, then add more if things start feeling dry or uncomfortable.
With silicone toys, water-based lubricant is generally the straightforward choice. You can browse our lubricants here.
Yes.
We sell the responsible part as well.
Start Slowly
There is no prize for speed.
Spend some time getting comfortable before penetration and start with the narrowest part of the toy.
Move slowly and gradually increase depth only if it feels comfortable.
You might prefer shallow movements.
You might like deeper pressure.
You might discover that a completely different angle feels better.
That is basically the point.
A dildo isn't something you're supposed to use according to a predetermined operating procedure.
Experiment.
Try Different Shapes and Angles
Small changes in angle can create surprisingly different sensations.
Curved designs can make certain pressure points easier to explore, while straight designs give you plenty of control over positioning.
Textured designs add another variable entirely.
Once you've decided standard shapes aren't causing enough administrative difficulty, our KLYMX fantasy dildo range includes curves, ridges, strange shapes and several products that clearly weren't designed by a committee.
Don't Ignore Discomfort
Strong sensation and discomfort aren't the same thing.
If something hurts, stop.
Try adding more lubricant, changing position, reducing the depth or switching to a smaller toy.
You don't need to prove anything to an inanimate piece of silicone.
It genuinely does not care.
Can You Use a Dildo With a Partner?
Absolutely.
Dildos aren't limited to solo play.
Partners can use them during foreplay, penetrative play or alongside other stimulation.
Using a toy together can also make experimenting with speed, depth and angles easier without requiring one person's hips to perform unpaid overtime.
Communication helps.
Useful feedback includes:
“Slower.”
“More pressure.”
“Stay there.”
Less useful feedback includes staring silently at the ceiling and expecting telepathy.
How Do You Clean a Dildo?
Once you're finished, clean the toy according to its care instructions.
For many silicone toys, warm water and mild soap or a suitable toy cleaner is recommended, followed by thorough drying before storage.
We've put the unnecessarily detailed version in our full toy care guide.
Because apparently even dildos require an operations manual.
Ready to Choose One?
Your first dildo doesn't need to be your biggest, strangest or most ambitious purchase.
Start with something that feels manageable.
Use plenty of lubricant.
Take your time.
Experiment with angles and movement.
And remember that the goal isn't to use a dildo “correctly”.
It's to work out what you actually enjoy.
You can make questionable purchasing decisions later.
